A child is a person who is still very unstable. Feelings and their psychological condition is still very easy to change. Therefore, as the person closest to the baby, we as parents must be sensitive to the situation, physically and mentally. Do not let us do not know the state of our children because of our busyness. Stress, is a state experienced by everyone, including our baby. So how do our attitudes, as parents, to prevent stress and at least reduce the level of stress experienced by our baby?
1. Vacation
Vacation is very important for our children. After nearly a week for our children busy with activities related to school, then you should at weekends, you are willing to spend some time for our children. It is very important to provide an opportunity to simply unwind, or refreshing. It is also beneficial to reduce the tensions felt our children while studying at school or while doing activities outside of school (such as tutoring and tutoring). So on weekends, it would be better if not filled with the guidance and lessons-learned lessons that will increasingly make your baby do not feel any lag time can make them feel out of all the bustle-bustle associated with the academic.2. Praise
As a parent, do not be too expensive to praise our children. Small compliments that we speak of great value for our children. Compliments are a source of motivation for our children in doing good qualities in their lives, especially the praise that comes from parents. So in each of the kids doing good things, do not hesitate to praise our children, so they are motivated to re-do the things that good.
3. Award
The meaning of this award is similar to the praise. Award can we give to our children, now children do good things. For example, when the children we get good performance at school. You can give them a new toy or treat your children to their favorite restaurant. This is very significant for our children, because with the award, your baby will be more motivated to do good things, such as more diligent study. With this award, then we do not need to give punishment to our baby when they make mistakes, as a form of punishment can be a way not to give awards to our children. For example, when the children fail to get a good grade on an exam school, we give punishment to our children by not giving a new toy.4. Do not let the baby weighed down by our problems
Each person must never be separated from the problem, not least ourselves. For children we can live their lives properly, it would be better for us to not let our baby weighed down by our problems. And when the children we are having problems, remain always at his side, and helped our children to solve problems that he faced.
5. Becoming Companions
Not everyone can be close to superiors in their workplace. Most of the subordinates feel reluctant to close with their superiors, because at work we did apply the system in which subordinates must respect his superiors and obey his superiors' orders. But in family life, such a system should be eliminated. As parents, it would be better if we make our children as our friend. Do not make such a distance that can make us feel reluctant children to us. This reluctance can make children we can not open with the problems he experienced. Not much of a problem if the problems experienced by our children comes from outside the home, but if the problem is from ourselves, it will become very complicated and difficult to resolve if the children we've felt reluctant to us to be open.6. Togetherness
Togetherness within a family is also very important. This could bring in and grow in emotional closeness between one family member with other family members. Do not hesitate to do something together, such as house cleaning, meals, sightseeing in the morning, and others. This togetherness can make a children do not ever feel alone, because they feel they have a family who can be invited to share and joke with one another.
7. Helping our Children
When the our children had difficulty in doing something, do not hesitate to help him. For example, when our children made about the difficulty in doing homework, as parents, be the first person to help our children resolve the issue.
8. The expression of love darling
The expression of affection can be so many kinds. It could be a kind word or action. In the form of speech, we can give utterance "I love you " or "Good night" to our baby before they slept. We can also give them a kiss of affection. Or a way to celebrate their birthdays, and will be better again by holding the "Surprise" on their birthdays. Of course this will really make your children feel themselves so valuable.
Not easy to recognize signs of stress in infants (0-12 months) because of limited means communication. Because of that, parents should be sensitive to changes in infant behavior. The signs of stress that can be recognized in infants are:
- prolonged fussiness or crying.
- restless sleep, waking intermittently.
- Lust eating / drinking decreased. Or when weighed weight gain is not encouraging, perhaps even decline.
- When asked to play, such as lackluster or even cry.
- I wish always being held and did not want to be left.
- Demonstrate aggressive behavior by winning or hitting.
- Turning the face or cry when he saw the mother / father because of feel you are not paying attention.Causes of stress
- Uncomfortable
Stress at the age of the baby is actually more likely as a response to that experienced prolonged discomfort. For example, wet or soiled pants peed or pooped since, but not quickly addressed.
Solution:
Sensitive to the needs of infants with always quick to respond to what the needs.
- Pain
The possibility of a baby also feel uncomfortable because of illness.
Solution:
Check with your child to the doctor. To reduce discomfort in the body, frequently hugged her body. Do not forget to give milk because there is a natural immune substances contained therein.- Feeling neglected
Examples of the most frequently encountered after maternity leave is finished, the mother must return to work, so that the care delivered to the figure of a replacement. This causes the baby to lose something that makes it safe and comfortable.
Solution:
Prepare as early as possible so the baby does not feel abandoned. Decide who will nurture him. Make sure he gets good care and treatment and comfort. After the mother works, give comfort by hugging, kissing, and ask him to play.
- Overstimulation
This is often not realized because of worries baby's parents received less stimulation as recommended by experts.
Solution:
- Be sensitive to signs of boredom that indicated the child. For example, babies who are fussy or bored will generally want to be free from the grip revolt us.
- Know the developmental stages of children per age. That way, we know what skills must be mastered and the skills which the child is not the time to teach.- Hot or cold
A very drastic weather changes or uncertainty can also cause your child stress. Home atmosphere that is too busy too often makes the child feel insecure.
Solutions
Anticipation before the problem came. when the weather is hot, wear kids thin clothes or turn on the AC if necessary. Or if the house visited by many people, swatch approximately room is still possible for babies to rest.
Choose which, running from the fire apparatus that use real bullets during demonstrations, or face total traffic jam for two hours because of the demonstration? Maybe you will quickly say, "Not at all."But if required to choose, usually people tend to choose the traffic jams.
Both situations will indeed cause the same reaction in our physical and psychic. That stress, and the blood and adrenaline flowing. Even better hungry tiger chased than facing traffic congestion. How it can?
The reason is running from the fire apparatus or from the pursuit of tigers will only bring stress that short even if it appears more daunting, while our bodies are designed to be able to deal with such situations. Another case of the old stress, repeatedly, and chronic, our bodies are not prepared for it and consequently can damage the brain.Stress or circumstances that push physical and psychological, is often regarded as a 'friend'. Called a friend, because there are times when the situation was actually able to produce press performance and productivity. Therefore, the psychologists used to advice, stress does not need to be avoided or resisted, but manageable.
Unfortunately, not everyone is able to manage stress, so many diseases (physical) exposures. Starting from the ulcer, liver, heart, stroke, cancer and so forth. Because of that slogan in a healthy body there is a healthy soul, no longer appropriate. The science shows, in a healthier life there is a healthy body.
Shaping Memory
Feelings of disappointment and loss that occur in everyday life, stress different every day, all make an impact.More importantly, there is a small part of the brain called the hippothalamus, will send a message to the pituitary gland for hormone corticotrophin drain into the blood. In turn, this hormone prompts the adrenal glands to release more stress hormones (glucocorticoids). This hormone tells the body to flood the blood with sugar, to immediately have the energy to run away from danger.
Stress hormones appear particularly 'shocking' for part of the brain called the hippocampus. These sections play an important role in shaping memory.
Recurring Stress
Sometimes people experience repetitive stress, and consequently will flood the brain glucocorticoids. Over time the benefits of stress hormones is lost, so the memory will get worse, the energy level down, and health problems arise.
Traumatic stress as it occurs in children victims of sexual violence, veterans and victims of war, of course more likely to damage the brain. The average of American Veteran right brain hippocampal decreases of 8%. Child victims of sexual violence in the brains of left hippocampal size decreased 12%.
Another study carried out intensively for four years against a group of women known, they are often elevated stress hormones, on brain hippocampal decreases of 14%. From the examination of patients with depression are known, it reduced hippocampal size of 19% compared to healthy people. Seeing a very bad result, the only way to keep us healthy is as much as possible to manage stress.How To Manage Stress
1. Take regular vacations.
2. Eat healthy everyday.
3. Avoid caffeine, alcohol and tobacco.
4. Do exercise regularly.
5. Practice some relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, breathing exercises.
6. Face the problems that occur in work and relationships (relationship), and solve.
7. Learn to recognize your own stress threshold, and do not push yourself to go beyond it.
8. Consider having a pet, because it can help you become relaxed.
9. Discuss your problem with an expert. Professional counselors can help see the problem objectively, and put the matter in proper perspective.
